Dating after 30 is like shopping at Goodwill. There can be really nice pieces there, but sometimes, when you find that item, and spend a little more time with it, you see that they are worn, and somewhat damaged from their previous owners. It takes a lot of searching to find something that still has the tags on it.
Finding a significant other after 30, who isn't divorced, who doesn't have kids, and doesn't have damage that can resemble PTSD, is damn near impossible. NOT IMPOSSIBLE, but damn near it. Think about it; People have had a good 15+ years of dating horror stories. So when you get them, they have remnants of being cheated on, left, lied to, scarring of mean words etc. They have credit problems brought on by their "exes", baby mama or dead beat dad, possible split custody with the dog they got together, and they sometimes have vehicles with both names on it. Basically a buffet of issues.
That does not mean it's impossible. We just have to sift through all the worn, holy, beat up items to find one that is less damaged than the others. Even if you find what was once the perfect pair of jeans, but are totally worn out, they might still be the perfect pair of jeans for you. A little TLC can make it work and last forever. If you take good care of those totally worn out jeans, if they protect and keep you warm, and you both do your part; It could still be the perfect fit.
Until then!
SELF CARE
Work on what ever "remnants" you have from your 15+ years of dating
Keep an open mind
Find your type of work out
HANG OUT WITH YOUR FRIENDS (Facetime, Group Facetime, find fun ways to do social distancing)
When its your time, and you aren't searching, things will fall into place. Until then! Do whatever it is that makes YOU happy!
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